Being True, Being Authentic

I frequent a cafe in my neighbourhood. I like the ambience but the service is, to put it mildly, uninspired.

Why is service important to us?

Because life is about relationships. We are emotional creatures and how we feel drives our lives. Ultimately, everything we do in life is motivated by a feeling that we want to experience – whether that feeling is one of security, love, recognition, power, control and so on.

With respect to other people, we make judgements. We trust or don’t trust. We have expectations of others. All of this rests upon how we interact and relate to other people. This all depends on our mindset when we communicate with other people.

I was reflecting on this mindset. Mindsets are often so deeply ingrained that they become indistinguishable, like furniture we see everyday and no longer notice due to familiarity.

A question dawned on me.

When I am communicating with others do I say what is true or am I preoccupied with impressing or making the other person like me? Or am I driven by what I think the other person thinks of me.

The reality is we can neither know what others really think of us nor can we control it.
If we want to be successful, if we want to be happy, and if we want to be respected, then we are better off putting truth and authenticity at the centre of our world, and not some fleeting and fluctuating illusion of someone else’s perceptions.

Abraham Goldberg

Suresh Vagjiani
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